Letting go

All of my life, I have been hearing "You just have to let it go." If it were only that easy.

I think this is what "letting go" looks like.

But what letting go is, I still don't know.

I found this poem in a folder that was labeled "personal" amongst my dad's things. I was 19 when he died, so I just kept the folder, figuring maybe something would become relevant at some point.
I think this came from his time in AA, but I can't be sure.

To let go doesn't mean to stop caring,
it means I can't do it for someone else.

To let go is not to get yourself off,
it is the realization that I can't control another.

To let go is not to enable,
but to allow learning from natural consequences.

To let go is to admit powerlessness,
which means the outcome is not in my hands.

To let go is not to try to change or blame another;
I can only change myself.

To let go is not to care for,
but to care about.

To let go is not to fix,
but to be supportive.

To let go is not to judge,
but to allow another to be a human being.

To let go is not be in the middle of arranging outcomes,
but to allow others to effect their own outcomes.

To let go is not to be protective;
it is to permit another to face reality.

To let go is not to deny,
but to accept.

To let go is not to nag, scold or argue,
but to search out my own shortcomings and to correct them.

To let go is not to adjust everything to my desires,
but to take each day as it comes and to cherish the moment.

To let go is not to criticize and regulate anyone,
but to try to become what I dream I can be.

To let go is not to regret the past,
but to grow and live for the future.

To let go is to fear less and love more.


This right here - this is my work.


Sylvie said...

Merci beaucoup for posting this. It's one of those things that's good to read every so often, to be reminded.

Karen Maezen Miller said...

It sounds like we could use some time together . . . you know the way!